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Website Errors, Elections And Laws

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Please forgive a rather boring email this time. I recently had a problem with thumbnail generation on SilkSoles.com, now fixed, but symptomatic of what’s shaping up to be a turbulent few months for all adult industry content creators. The reason for the thumbnail problem is, indirectly, legal changes in the USA. Various states have brought in age verification requirements with conflicting regulations, and all web hosting platforms are having to decide what to do about it. Our web hosts and billing provider, Surfnet, has very kindly implemented a system for us to use to handle this automatically.

However, it involves some sweeping changes under the hood, which can cause issues with our content management system which has been faithfully underpinning our sites since 2007. The next few months may see in a few more niggling errors
as the AVS software gets updated and more legal requirements are placed upon us; rest assured we are working to fix these as they arise.

There is a broader issue: the recent election result in the USA brings in a new administration, and some of their backers have made a lot of noise about banning pornography and locking creators and web hosts in prison. This is an attempt to explain what is going on, without getting political, and what we in the industry are doing to prepare.

TL;DR version: the message is that if you are a fan of kinky content, STOCK UP ON IT NOW. The creators need to build resources so we can adapt to necessary changes, and it’s almost certain that heavier censorship is coming to the kink arena. If you wait, you may not be able to buy it at all.



In Detail

Despite the fact that we are British, the USA is our single largest market. Our websites are hosted in the USA, as they have been for a couple of decades, and many of the large platforms through which we sell are also based in the USA.

There is a faction within the incoming administration which openly seeks to shut down the adult industry entirely. The “Mandate for Leadership” document which is guiding framework for Project 2025 explicitly states “Pornography should be outlawed” – something which they are using as a way in to attacking representation and resources for LGBT+ people online. Furthermore it states “The people who produce and distribute it should be imprisoned. Educators and public librarians who purvey it should be classed as registered sex offenders. And telecommunications and technology firms that facilitate its spread should be shuttered.”

That’s US they are talking about – your favourite creators, models, producers, websites and the platforms through which we sell. They want it all shut down and all of us doing other things, or in prison.

How strong an influence this view will have in the new administration is currently unknown and we may be catastrophizing.

What is not catastrophizing is that various states in the USA have recently introduced “Age Verification” measures. Texas, Oklahoma, Arkansas, Louisiana, Mississippi, Montana, North Carolina, Utah and Virginia have all introduced laws like this. More will probably come. Each has conflicting requirements imposed on the age verification solution, so one solution cannot be used for all of them. (For example one state requires re-verification every hour). To the proponents, this is feature not a bug – the more onerous it is for us to comply, the greater the likelihood we just give up.

Surfnet is kindly implementing state-by-state systems for all their hosted sites to at least try to keep our work available to people in those states. It’s a complex problem and is causing endless niggling technical conflicts which need fixing as they arise (in between shoot days and editing days).

It should be up and running on the eStore already, SilkSoles.com has it implemented and it’s broken the model pages and some of my webmaster admin pages; we’re fixing that now. RE and Elegance Studios will follow. We hate to do it – all of the arguments against age verification that we advanced when the UK attempted to bring in similar laws a
few years ago still apply. But we don’t really have a choice at this point.



I should emphasise again that this is real and current.

Kinky content is always the first to get attacked. I can’t put anything implying Slave Auctions up on Clips4Sale any more, no matter how clear the video makes that it is consensual, fictional or a game. For now I am editing a special version of the clip removing reference to the “auction” parts but if other billing companies follow suit the days of cheery Slave Auction videos may well be numbered. Many producers and creators are making alternate edits for the platforms vs. their own sites to pass compliance – that’s not catastrophizing either, it’s already the daily reality of production. I can’t see that getting any better – indeed what’s most likely is that all the billing platforms, even the ones outside the USA, will be pressured into applying similar rules to C4S eventually.

In short – although kinky content is never going to go away, we may well be in for a turbulent few years in terms of how we supply it. The range of what we can offer on the more public platforms may be quite restricted, and the same restrictions may eventually get applied even to smaller platforms and websites.

This alone is enough to cause upheaval in the adult industry. Add to that the continuing evolution of X (nee Twitter) under its new ownership and the adult-unfriendly nature of most other social media platforms and we’re not sure where we will be able to advertise or reach our broader fan bases. Platforms like instagram are only going to clamp down harder on anything which sniffs even faintly of kink or adult content if the administration takes a hard line approach. Clips4Sale and ManyVids will buckle under VISA and Mastercard demands to make content much more vanilla.

If you have favourite models or creators, make sure you get on their mailing lists. Following them on a platform doesn’t help if the platform shuts them down.

Obviously we are all going to try to do something about it, individually and collectively. To do that the one thing we are really going to need is your support. Implementing systems to follow the laws costs money and takes time. Changing billing or hosting or distribution channel is hugely disruptive. What we collectively as an industry beg you to do is to support us, especially for the next six months so we can build up some resources.



Analysis by Alexandra Snow

In case you still think it is just me being alarmist, I’ll quote you a thread by Alexandra Snow (Edited for brevity):

“A non-political thread.

Let’s talk realistic impacts on the adult industry for independent content creators, and my advice for both fans and SWers.

TLDR: fans of kink, femdom, niche fetishes, and individual creators should buy/stockpile content now

Creators: diversify, plan

There’s a high probability that online adult content platforms will face heightened attention from conservative policymakers and advocacy groups, leading to more cautious environments in as little as 3-6 months.

We know this because it’s already happening.

Anticipate that major social media and content-sharing platforms are likely to preemptively adjust their policies to align with anticipated regulatory shifts, potentially leading to stricter content moderation and increased deplatforming of adult content creators.

No marketing.

Introduction of bills aimed at restricting or regulating online adult content is likely. These could include measures to impose more age verification requirements, limit payment processing for adult content, or expand definitions of obscenity.

You can’t access or buy content.

Payment processors and financial institutions may begin to distance themselves, and sites must implement more aggressive content filtering to comply with new laws, leading to loss of income for creators whose content is deemed non-compliant. OF, C4S, IWC, LF, Fansly, PH, etc.

What kind of content is likely to be most affected?
Kink/Fetish/BDSM – Always the first to be impacted.
LGBTQIA+ Themes – Especially trans, but all are at risk
Female Empowerment – See also, femdom.
Fan platforms and custom content – often branded as “unregulated” and “risky”

Hardcore and explicit fetish content often pushes the boundaries of what is considered “acceptable” by conservative standards and may be deemed “obscene” or morally objectionable under more restrictive policies. These categories are often the first to be flagged or restricted.

Platforms may begin to enforce stricter guidelines on hardcore content, banning certain fetishes or practices altogether. Content creators working in BDSM, CNC, or other edge-play scenarios may be forced to significantly alter or censor their content, more than it already is.

Conservative movements often seek to police LGBTQIA+ representation, especially in adult content, under the guise of “protecting traditional values.” LGBTQIA+ adult content is frequently at risk of censorship, especially when coupled with sex-positive or exploratory themes.

LGBTQIA+ creators and those producing queer-themed adult content could face increased scrutiny and removal from mainstream platforms. This might also extend to content labeled as “educational” or “expressive,” if it doesn’t fit heteronormative standards.

That includes girl/girl.

Content creators who focus on educating about safe sexual practices, consent, kink, and other sex-positive topics may see their videos, posts, or websites flagged or removed from platforms.

Policymakers often view it as “promoting” sex work or alternative lifestyles.

Platforms like OnlyFans, LoyalFans, and others that facilitate direct engagement between creators and fans are often seen as a target because they are viewed as enabling “unregulated” adult content.

Payment processors and platforms may impose stricter verification protocols, limit types of content allowed, or outright ban certain activities on fan sites. Creators who rely on custom content requests (which may include fetishes or themes not allowed on other platforms) might be forced to move to more underground channels.

Content that explores female or queer empowerment, particularly around sexual freedom and autonomy, often clashes with conservative values. Content that encourages personal empowerment, or challenges traditional roles may face shadowbanning, deplatforming, or forced moderation.

Here’s my advice:

Diversify Platforms: Utilize multiple platforms to distribute content, reducing reliance on any single platform.

Organize your content and have a plan for how you would redistribute it to other sites if you lose one.

Diversify your topics too.

Stay Informed: Regularly monitor legislative developments and platform policy changes to anticipate and adapt. See also
@FSCArmy

Connect with fans directly: Have your own website, discord, mailing list, Telegram, etc. Keep fans informed, educate them!



For fans and supporters:

– Follow creators on multiple platforms
– Use direct support options, such as Throne, gift cards, crypto, etc
– Engage intelligently on platforms and avoid language and terms that get us flagged
– Subscribe to newsletters and private channels (if avail)

Be patient and understanding if content frequency or type changes.
Recognize that creators may have to adapt or take breaks for their mental health and safety.
Express your support and understanding, and know that these are often necessary to ensure long-term sustainability.
If you’re comfortable, consider advocating for creators’ rights by supporting organizations and policies that protect freedom of expression and digital rights. Raise awareness about the importance of supporting adult creators and the threats we face. Join
@FSCArmy
and
@EFF

Take time to learn about digital rights, online censorship, and how these issues affect adult content creators specifically.

Buy up your favorite topics and content now before you can’t find it.

Learn how to use VPNs.

And send your favorite creators encouragement.

Also understand that unlike legislation, censorship in the adult industry happens more quickly because no one wants to be caught holding the hot potato of obscenity.

It’s easier for sites to comply with these shifts than to fight them because you risk losing your $$ processors.”

We Are Not Going Anywhere. But We Need Your Support, More Than Ever

I’m sorry for the gloom and doom. I feel like I’ve cried Wolf before – because when the UK government tried to introduce these measures they pulled back at the last minute. Restrained Elegance was being investigated when the censorship body was itself wound up. I delayed sending in my response until they’d been abolished. That is not going to happen this time – the state-by-state age verification is already here.

We, and hopefully your other favourite kinky creators, are not planning on going anywhere. But it looks like we in for upheavals in the ways we can distribute what we shoot, so please bear with us. Your continued support is what keeps the adult industry alive.

I’ll send a cheerier post along tomorrow with all the latest releases. In the meantime, please support your favourite creators, the next few months are going to be a bit up and down for the industry I suspect.



New email address

Hi Everyone

Over the years my work email address (webmaster @ restrainedelegance.com) has got more and more unreliable, with more and more emails not getting through to me. I believe this is because of shadowbanning with some mail routers just swallowing any emails to “porny” domains. It’s annoying to say the least, and came to a head this morning when MY OWN WIFE couldn’t send me an email of her appearance on Irish TV to my work address and had to resend to my personal one.

It’s clearly got out of hand, so I have set up a new secure email system using protonmail and a custom domain.
So from now on if you need to email me, please send to webmaster@restrainedelegance.help.

Hopefully that will prove more reliable!

The old email address will still work as well or as badly as it is right now, and it’ll take me a while to change all the “contact us” links and so forth. But hopefully the new address will be more reliable.

Hywel

Restrained Elegance is 22 years old!

Hi everyone,

1st April marks Restrained Elegance’s 22nd birthday! I didn’t choose to launch the site on April Fool’s day – it had been intended to launch a few days later on or around 4th April. But the billing had already gone live, and such was the fierce interest in fetish sites in the early days of mass internet access, I got my first member before I even knew the site was open for business.

So here we are, stuck with April Fool’s Day. Let’s celebrate!

For RE members, I’ve opened up the site so the updates and archives go back a whole year. If you missed out before, take the chance to catch up this weekend. I can’t keep this much material on the site for long, the bandwidth bills would be crippling, so don’t miss out!

And if you are not a member today is the day to join – you’ll get 112,493 photos and 277 video clips (total duration 67 hours, 38 minutes) but the offer lasts for THIS WEEKEND ONLY! Now’s your chance to get double the bondage for your money!

If you prefer to purchase clips and sets individually I am also running a 50% off SALE on our eStore, THIS WEEKEND ONLY.

That includes all our Elegance Studios films like Scarlett’s First and Second Sessions, Slave Auction, all our D&D Feature Films, the Pony Girl trilogy plus all our updates from the last five-plus years!

I won’t be running another sale like this this year, so don’t miss out!

Restrained Elegance is 21 today!

Wow, it feels like a huge achievement. My little website that I launched to help pay for fun bondage photoshoots is 21 years old today.

No, it’s not an April Fool’s joke!

I wouldn’t have chosen April 1st as a launch date – in fact the site was supposed to launch on April 4th. But when I checked how the site set-up was doing, from next to the swimming pool in a Los Angeles motel whilst waiting for Stacy Burke to arrive for what would have been something like my tenth photoshoot, I discovered not only had the site and the billing gone live, but the site already had its first member. So 1st April 2001 it was, a few days early.

I’d spin you a long tale about the adventures we’ve had in those years, from hobby to hobby-covering-costs to second job to making more money than being a physicist to making TWICE as much money as being a physicist. Quitting my academic career and going full-time. Getting a photo studio. Getting rid of the photo studio at the very earliest opportunity. Finding a new partner, running the business together. The friends and colleagues made along the way, location trips and bondage and spanking and BDSM and bastinado and all manner of kinky good things. Government crack-downs, billing company woes, PayPal blocking my business account, ATVOD, credit card company rules, the rise of social media… it’s been quite a ride and it shows no signs of stopping yet.

But I don’t have time to go in to all of that, because I’m backing up everything we shot on a two-day shoot with Lauren Louise and I’m getting ready for a marathon cosplay D&D BDSM shoot next week which I’m SUPER EXCITED about because Zoe posted one of her character/costume creations on Twitter last night and it looks bloody awesome.

So I’ll leave you to look through today’s bumper crop of archives which tell a bit of the story of Restrained Elegance. If you’ve missed out on any of our updates from the last few years, I’m running a 50% off sale on our eStore this weekend only. I’ll run a discount on the Classic store for older sets later on this month.

Thank you all for your help and support and enthusiasm. You’ve made all of this possible, and your continued support is what lets us tie up hot girls and film them for you for a living to this day!

Hywel

2022 Plans – Part One

We always have a January meeting to decide our priorities for Restrained Elegance and Silk Soles. It’s a bit of a weird one this year because of Omicron: we don’t know whether there’s going to be lockdown, or it’s going to burn itself out, or what. So Ariel and I have planned conservatively and are planning on working from home for January at least.

We shot a mountain of material in Autumn/Fall while we could get models in to the house and I’m excited to get stuck in to the editing. You’ll already have seen the first results from the stellar shoot with Alba Zevon, there’s three days’ worth of that shoot to edit. There’s some red-hot footage with Scarlett Foxette, some sultry steel with Bex White, and multi-girl adventures with Lucy Lauren, Chloe Toy, Faye Taylor and Ariel. I’ve still got plenty of Charlie Ten, Stephanie Bonham-Carter and Kitty Quinzell to edit, and a stock of material with people like Sophia Smith, Rachelle Summers, Natalia Forrest, Zoe Page, Anna, Temptress Kate, Lauren Louise, and more.

New Year’s Resolution is to get stuck in to editing the rest of the Cosplay Dungeon D&D film we shot with Lucy Lauren in March 2020. This was the last thing we shot before lockdown, and I’ve been superstitiously sitting on it because it’s really really hot and I’m very proud of it, and for some reason I didn’t want to “lose” it from my stash. Bad Hywel, get it edited and get it out there because it is super – and hopefully we’ll be shooting the next one in a few months!

Alexander Lightspear has been an absolute superstar working machine over the last couple of years, shooting
as many different models as possible to help me keep up the variety of new faces while it’s been tricky for us to schedule so many shoots. So I’ve got literally dozens of sets of Delta, Cheryl, Irene, Nicole, Elaine, Sylvia, Kitty, Agnes, Thelma, Anne, Annette, Peggy and Suzanne to come. Best wishes to him in 2022 especially as he got COVID in the Delta wave – hope Omicron leaves you be, Alexander.

In total I have over 400 stills sets on disk right now- back up to a good couple of years stock, which is what I always liked to run at. It’s a bit short on variety of models and variety of locations (because COVID) but I hope you’ll somehow bear up under the strain of more Delta and Alba Zevon?

Videos we have about 100 – a bit shy of two years’ worth, again not with as wide a variety of models as I’d usually hope for in my on-disk stock. We’re going to book more video shoots with more different models as soon as we can.

I’m excited to expand our video shoots this year because we’ve got more custom requests coming in. We also have an increasing number of sales of videos on video platforms like Clips4Sale and ManyVids. Buying patterns have changed the big platforms now have their own dedicated pool of customers who don’t buy via other routes.

To sell well on these platforms ideally you need to update daily to stay on front pages. You’ve allowed two versions of each clip, so that means a new video every two days. I refuse to sacrifice the hard-won RE technical quality, so that might not be achievable. Ramping up from the current one video per six days to one video every three days seems like a good start!

We’ll see what that means for RE updates as the year goes on. I’ve stuck to two photosets to one video since we changed update schedule, but as I said at the time that may have to change as the industry evolves. So we might experiment with more like a half-and-half mixture once we’ve got more videos coming down the pipeline. I LOVE shooting stills so I’m never going to stop, just adjust the mix.

I’m really excited by the shoots Ariel and I have planned for the start of the year, and getting geared up for the two big multi-model shoots we have in the calendar for April and May already. Fingers crossed they will all go ahead as planned! Then I’ll be fitting in solo model shoots focussing on customs and videos with as many of the RE regulars as possible to fill out the variety on disk, and grab some more of
the rising new bondage stars as soon as I can too. 2022 should be very exciting!

For the moment, SilkSoles is going to stick with its stills format. Confession: I’ve not cracked the formula for shooting SilkSoles videos that sell well. The growth side of the business is clearly bondage videos. I LOVE shooting beautiful barefoot babes but I can’t justify the extra time and editing to do foot fetish videos when a bondage one will sell ten times as many copies.

Elegance Studios has been overtaken by events. When website videos ran to 5 minutes, a 45 minute Elegance Studios video was a real event and quite distinct. Now website videos run to 30 minutes routinely, the lines have become so blurred that almost everything is shot like an Elegance Studios video was back in the day! We’re still doing big productions like the D&D cosplay series but it’s integrated into the video pipeline to go onto clips stores etc. as well as appearing here.

We’re excited for 2022 and we hope to see a lot of you this year!