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Hello everyone! Ooh, is tricky saying personal things on forums, so I hope this is ok. I’ve been thinking for a while that it’d be better to be honest, so here goes :blush
Oh dear, don’t really know how to begin. I started liking Hywel ages ago, and obviously didn’t do anything about it cos he was married. So I just carried on being awfully keen at shoots, and thought that’d be fine, which it was for ages….
Then (for unrelated reasons) Hywel and his very nice wife broke up, and since we were both single again, we started playing together. And then I jolly well fell in love with him.
:love2
So we’ve been together for a few months now, and I didn’t want to say anything in case it all suddenly exploded or something. But it doesn’t seem to be, and we don’t like not being honest, so I wanted people on the forum to know. A few of you do anyway (cos you’ve met us) and I didn’t like the idea of it being a sort of secret.
Anyway, I’ve been worried that it might stop some people enjoying our work (I know that some models pretend to be single because they think it’ll make them more popular…) or that people might think Hywel left his wife for me, like a big horrible cheat. Grrrr, how stressful! I really hope that those of you who like my work will keep on liking it.
Don’t really know how it’ll all work out, of course; but;-
a)Hywel is a super-good-clever man, and I like him very much.
b)I also love him, wheeeee!
c)It’s very nice doing bondage in real life. Although it does slow down our production schedule somewhat.If anyone else would like to share far too much about their personal life and make me feel better, please do go ahead, this is the thread for it 🙂
I’m sure people are jealous as hell of me for running RE for a living anyway, and now they are going to be absolutely *green* with envy! :alien
I’ve never posted much about my personal life here because my ex-wife (who is still a very very close and dear friend) was a very private person. She was and is very supportive of me and the site, although it’s not really her thing. But I felt I owed it to her to maintain her privacy.
Ariel and I got to know each other first as model and photographer. She certainly made an impression when she showed up like a whirlwind of bondage enthusiasm for our first shoot (and she brought her own cakes). We were both in other relationships at the time and had no ulterior motives- we loved working together, we had great fun shooting Ariel’s ideas and mine. We got to be really good friends outside of shoots, too, starting with a really long and interesting dinner non-date when we went to a Torture Garden show in London as research for the Emotional Ties film which we were co-writing.
When I got arrested a while back during the “Belle case” it was Ariel who came over right afterwards to take me out for cake and a long chat. And when my ex-wife and I decided to go our separate ways, Ariel and I finally and very tentatively decided maybe we would do some bondage and spanking play together off-screen, just for fun…. and it all took off from there!
Been having the time of my life 🙂
Hopefully, you won’t hold it against me too much.
Hywel.
This news does come as a bit of a surprise but not a massive one. You two seems like a good match to me, you’re nice people, you deserve to be happy and it’s good that you are. You’re darn right Hywel that you’re going to be making people green. I know I’m jealous (I can only dream of finding happiness like that).
I don’t think anyone is going to stop enjoying your work Ariel. It’s probably true that a lot of folks like the thought that the models are single but of course the reality is that models are no different than any other group of people, some are, a lot aren’t. As long as you keep coming up with those inventive ideas, we’ll keeping loving seeing you do what you do so well.
Greetings from Texas,
Considering some of the stuff I’ve posted I don’t know how much more personal life I could share other than my real name, address and photo. If I share the photo it’s not like I will have a flood of folks looking me up anyway. Like Hywel’s ex, my wife prefers our private life private you folks are spaired the troll’s mug shot!
Like the last guy said, no great shock and I already envied Hywel his job. There isn’t enough happiness in this world for me to begruge it to anyone else. I’m happy for you folks and hope it last forever.
As for knowing Ariel has found someone to be happy with and isn’t crusing personal ads…I hope you folks won’t think less of me if I say it won’t slow down my fantasys and impure thoughts one little bit.I am glad this is no longer an ‘open secret’. I was told some time ago by another model but Ariel asked me to keep it to myself as it was early days in this new stage of the relationship.
I have been fortunate enough to have known Ariel for a long time (back to before I knew about her enjoyment of bondage/punishment ) and I know how low she was when things went wrong in her previous relationship so if she is now with someone who makes her happy then thats great.
I don’t know Hywel personally, having only briefly met him once in delivering a model to him, but I know a number of models (apart from Ariel) who work with him so I know the good reputation he has with them.
I wish you both well for the future.
Hope to see Ariel again soon.
Very great news! Thanks, Ariel and Hywel, you’re nice to share that with the members of the site. To be honest, it’s not quite a surprise for Love leaves tiny footsteps along its way, even onscreen. Maybe you were not yet aware of Him? But now, I can say aloud: I wish you a very very long happy lifetime!
@fid533 wrote:
As for knowing Ariel has found someone to be happy with and isn’t crusing personal ads…I hope you folks won’t think less of me if I say it won’t slow down my fantasys and impure thoughts one little bit.
No, of course we don’t think any less of you for the impure fantasies! They probably aren’t as impure as ours, anyway :ignore
To be honest I hadn’t even really thought about that aspect of it. Ariel’s a model, I’m a photographer, if anyone ought to be understanding of the other person’s work it should be us 🙂 I’d certainly be very disappointed if we felt jealous of other people having impure thoughts about our work now we are suddenly together, would be very hypocritical. We will try not to be self-indulgent and keep filming fantasies that everyone can enjoy. After all, if you’ve been on here a while you’ll know that Ariel and I both have more than enough fantasies to go around.
Interesting point on cruising personal ads, too. Ariel and I both (briefly) had profiles up on alt.com but thankfully we managed to find each other in real life. I feel very, very lucky- I must admit I found alt.com rather like sitting in a shop window and waiting to be sold. Might be hot for a sub but certainly wasn’t for me! Didn’t like it so my profile didn’t stay on there for long AT ALL. It must be ever such a tricky way to find someone.
Cheers, Hywel.
@tancrede wrote:
Love leaves tiny footsteps along its way, even onscreen.
Oh yes, completely agree! And there were signs, looking back on some of our older videos. Not that we were in any way being unprofessional, nor was there any hint of “playing around” (we’re both far too uptight and concerned about sticking to our personal moral standards for that I fear!)
But it has certainly been true for a long time that there are a lot of things I felt comfortable shooting with Ariel that I’d never have dreamed of shooting with anyone else. Not just in terms of “content” or “strength” or challenge of what we shoot; more in terms of emotional roles and storylines I was happy to portray acting with her on camera that I’d just not have been comfortable doing with anyone else.
Thanks to all for your kind words… I know Ariel was ever so worried that you’d maybe not like her any more… 🙂
Hywel.
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Lol – yay for the pair of you – even if it has been obvious for a while :p
As for sharing personal information about me – I’m still trying to work some of that out for myself so not sure how successfully I’d be able to articulate things 🙁
Oh, I am so pleased for you guys………
I know there is a lot of weirdness about models and photographers getting together but it’s like any other job……….you personal life mixes with it at some point and I’m sure most people here have been involved with or would REALLY liked to have been involved with someone they met thought work!
I have only shot with Hywel once (for this years bondage x factor) and only know of Ariel by reputation (a good one of course!!) but wish you all the happiness in the world!
Ashley :heartbeat
Aww, thanks Ashley! And welcome to the site! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Hywel.
Yay, congratulations to you both.
:cheers
I suspect anyone this side of the screen would need to be pretty blind to be totally surprised.. my ex picked up on something a good 18 months ago :suspect . I guess it must be a relief to be err, “out”, a bit of a relief for those of us who knew too as it would have been ghastly to have accidently let the cat out of the bag! :ignore
Thinking about it, I’m loving the back-to-front nature of the relationship, I mean I’ve been seeing a girl for just over a year and only now starting to explore fantasies and kinks, which is kinda normal I guess. You guys got to explore in minute detail the kinkiest most initmate fantasies of each other BEFORE starting a relationship :p . I guess if you want to do something new and exciting now you can go food shopping or a walk in the park 😀
Best wishes to you both..
Rich
YAY – way to go you two! I’m thrilled to bits your both together and have found happiness in a relationship that fulfils all your desires.
Working with the pair of you is actually more fun now and seeing how happy you are is heart-warming. The sincerity is so clear and I’m delighted you have shared your wonderful news with everyone.
Enjoy every minute of it and many congratulations to you both,
Steve
P.S., dam it Hywel, you really are such a lucky man! :pYes, there has been a nice vibe between you two for awhile.
Good luck in your relationship!
Yes – I envy you, and yes – this sounds far too good to be true.
A model, falling in love with its photographer while shooting erotic scenes? Aw, come on! Even for Hollywood this is too much of a cliché!
Well, I wish you good luck. Maybe this is the kind of the event to demonstrate that Life can turn spontaneously to the better. Or maybe something completely different. Time will tell.
Oh, thank you, thank you everyone for your kind words :smooch
And hi Ashley, nice to see a model on the forum! Good luck with X Factor, and do keep posting if you feel like it 🙂
Am very interested that people kind of guessed anyway; I know I’ve sometimes gone randomly waltzing off into sub-space (especially in Bondage Driving Test, where I also tried to kiss Hywel’s arm, and didn’t realise till I saw the video back :blush :blush ) but I sort of thought that the EXTREME cruelty and unreasonableness with which he treated me would be a clever disguise for any actual affection. :;):
Hmmm, yes, Merlin; it IS all the wrong way round. Wrong, wrong, wrong. I’d be very interested to know how people who start BDSM relationships manage to maintain some kind of balance long term. Obviously, 24/7 kink seems pretty unsustainable (and not very attractive to me when I properly think about it) but it’s so exciting to be able to share things that you maybe were never expecting to be able to, that it’s bound to take over somewhat at the beginning.
So trips to Tesco seem like a very good thing. And normal stuff like that. Without any collars or video cameras.
Anyway, thanks everyone, will obviously not start thinking I am the FIRST LADY just because I’m Hywel’s girlfriend (hmmm, what do First Ladies get to wear??), I just want to keep doing good work for RE.
:spin :spin
Aw I am so proud of you both for ‘coming out’ on the forum!
I am really glad that your relationship is going so well. You are both two of the most genuine and unique (in the nicest possible way) people I know and you really are such a good match. Ariel, you are what Hywel has been missing for at least the 7 years I have known him. Hywel, you appear to get younger and happier every time I see you! But yes, like the whole world it seems, I kinda saw it coming – Hannah, Sabrina and I pretty much twigged at the South France trip last year! You were like a pair of teenagers!
Anyway, cheers :cheers to you both, and may your relationship go from strength to strength.
Kate x
Thanks Kate! And thanks for letting us work it out in our own time, I think we might have been easy to mock 😉
Thank you Hywel an Ariel !
It is very good to be here……I have been looking in the forums and deliberating whether to post since Hywel gave me my username and password. I couldn’t resist posting here today!! :bounce
Ashley
Couldn’t have happened to two nicer people, so happy that you finally found each other, cherish every moment.
:cheers
Frank
That’s fantastic news – hearty congratulations to both of you!
With very best wishes,
AuberonYou both know how happy I am for you- you both deserve happiness like this :singhappy
Well done for posting Ariel, I wondered how long it would be :twirl
Sammie
xEverybody wrote so much – so from Denmark a great congratulations – Ariel, you found the best bdsm photographer on the net,and a very nice guy. Hywell, you has run off whith an obvius extremly beautyfull woman which i belive also is very sweet and fun – and brainy.
And yes – i envie you a tiny litlle bit.Many, many thanks to everyone for all your kinds words.
We do have NICE members here on Restrained Elegance!
Thank you 🙂
Hywel & Ariel.
Let me also add my congradulations and best wishes to the two of you for a long an happy relationship.
I’m very happy for the both of you. I posted here at the time when my previous relationship collapsed after 8 years. She was certainly not “into it”. I looked at alt.com etc, but eventually found someone through collarme.com. We’ve been together a while now, and having someone on the same wavelength as you really does make all the difference! If I were you both I shouldn’t worry about anyone elses thoughts and just stick to being happy. (Well, Ariel, that means stick to making Hywel happy!)
Hywel, I think you’ll be needing more cakes.Ariel and Hywel
That is so great to hear. I am so happy for you two. Well Ariel I guess you found your Knight in Armor. Really am so happy for you both.Mark
@hywel wrote:
I’m sure people are jealous as hell of me for running RE for a living anyway, and now they are going to be absolutely *green* with envy! :alien
Hywel, I so want to say that you have NO idea! And it may even be true *nibbles some chocolate for strength*
On a slightly more serious front, this is surprising news to me. But then again, it is traditional that I am one of the last people to hear the news.
What matters in the world is happiness, and it seems, both from what you two are saying, and others who know you are saying, that this is making the two of you truly happy. Ultimately what better news could there be than this?
Ariel, your comment about wanting other people to share something deeply personal put a strained smile on my face. Along with a pile of work one of the reasons I disappeared for a month was someone managed to share my credit card *angry* which has caused a certain amount of hassle, and disrupted my RE membership. The bank were very good about it, but after that, there are certain personal things I feel it is best to keep secret.
I do have to warn you two love birds that I am likely to think some decidedly impure thoughts about Ariel, even as I toast your happiness together *offers cake all round*
I am very happy for you both and am glad to hear it is all working out well….I too had a hunch you would both fall head over heels for each other within time!!!
So Hywel…does this mean I am no longer allowed to tie Ariel up??? Or try to talk her into being one of my bitches LOL!!!
take care,
ChantaOoh, no; I’m SURE Hywel will still want Chanta to tie me up! I’m SURE he will. Even though I do not want it. Oh, no, not even a little bit…. 😉
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