Blimey Cav..

does your cold require any prescription meds..? maybe things that shouldn’t be mixed with beer?? 😀

Saying that, you’ve hit upon a whole raft of intriguing issues.

I quite like the way that D/s is practiced behind closed doors, its like sex on a train or in a restaurant, basically terrible but exciting because its something different, something risque.. Problem is.. if you do something, expecially something so involved, in isolation then you (I) start to wonder if you’re the only people doing this, doing it “wrong” or even possessing such fantasies at all.. Such issues are of course not easy to discuss in our vanilla lives hence the beauty of forums such as this. Even better, a year ago I had kinda got near the bottom of the list of the GF’s known fantasies and decided I had to go for the biggy. I literally abducted her in a van and ended up in the back of a police car for my troubles. Fuck. No… FUCK! I was literally speachless for weeks and certainly finished with D/s play, after a certain amount of alcohol I detailed the brief highlights of my evening in this very forum and to be honest it was a HUGE weight off my shoulders. I mean the BEST therapy I could have found, I think Ariel was particularly understanding and it helped alot. Thanks. Heh, Auntie Ariel.. 😀

Couldn’t have possibly told our parents the details or our shared fetish, I mean they would NEVER EVER understand in any way. We used to housesit all the time for the GF’s parents and I basically converted the whole of their extensive home into our playground, clues everywhere but even if I’d replaced the front door with a dungeon door and hung a cage in the dining room they’d never have figured it out, “ooh.. yea.. err thanks for the extra indoor hanging baskets.. in the bedroom.. that’ll be.. err.. lovely..” (literal quote) lol. The GF’s brother once let himself in and rapidly became familiar with his big sisters fetish, but of course not being completely stupid he kinda knew ayway..

I have no problem with workmates, I guess thats for 2 reasons, firstly we work very closely in 2,3, or 4 person teams and travel extensively basically living out of one anothers pockets. You get to know each other very well indeed and its fun to tell people once they know you’re not a complete phyco freak (..no I’m not.!.). Secondly its basically my company so who’s gonna sack me 🙂

However my peers are another matter. For years I moved around with my career, couple of years here, couple there and often going “home” for the weekend and so got used to having 2 seperate lives. I’ve known Jo to varying extents for about 10 years and never even introduced her to my oldest friends / peers. Different life.. On friday evening my oldest mate and his fiance were sitting in my kitchen waiting for me to finishing beautifying myself (no small job..), Dave knew I’d just ventured into a “pro studio” for the first time but nothing else. When he saw my camera he picked it up and had a browse, when I walked in they were closely examining a headshot of a ballgagged and tied Ariel… So the cats out the bag then, going to be an interesting couple of weeks and surprisingly, I’m not really bothered.

I read your post with particular interest Ariel, its one thing to have a passive interest, I mean on this side of the screen but a whole new ballgame to be infront of the lens. I’ve wondered how you girls introduced your work to friends and family. Most girls I’ve ever dated tend to be “daddies little girl” around family who of course don’t know them at all.. I’ve wondered how you make the step to tell them you got tied up and whipped? last night, and loved it.. Interesting stuff.

Cheers

M

P.S. Is that “Jim” then.. Get well soon. 🙂

P.P.S OOh Ariel.. you have sisters..there’s a set I’d pay to see heheheh (err.. Merlin feeling a bit dirty now ..)

Hi CD,

Thanks for bringing this up on the forum. I’m sure you will get some interesting views posted here….

For me, I believe the whole topic of bondage for personal relationships and publications depicting photographic imagery has roller-coasted from a highly taboo subject decades ago into something for more open and widespread today. This will continue and I’m sure as in 5 to 10 years time, it will be a far more accepted in conversational discussions. The internet has obviously played a HUGE part in this by allowing the worlds population to access images, chat rooms etc in the confides of their private home without feeling embarrassed or a need to share their passion with any family members of friends.

For me, I am extremely lucky as my wife shares this enthusiasm and we enjoy a very opened-minded relationship with her in a sub role and it’s fantastic!

With the evolvement of more individuals using the internet and purchasing magazines to seek information about the BSDM subject, I have found people are opening up and feeling comfortable enough to share their feelings. It’s very interesting to note that Ariel said herself she has started to share her thoughts with strangers about her work, which I think is fantastic. It shows how seriously she takes her work and how much she not only enjoys it, but also is also proud of her achievements (and quite rightly so). Full respect to you Ariel for doing something you genuinely love to do. Wish I could say the same about my work!

A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine told me about a girlie night out she had with her mates. Usual Friday night thing, 6 girls out in town eating drinking and clubbing etc. The topic of sex came up which also included their respective husbands, boyfriends. She told me 4 of the 6 girls really loved to experiment with bedroom toys, and dressing up and self-bondage. However, the other 2 were really surprised and somewhat shocked by this as they had no interest in it at all. What was most interesting is the fact 3 of these girls who would love to indulge in these bondage fantasise would never dare raise the topic with their boyfriends for fear of their response (I believe this to be a very common situation which is a great shame). It clearly shows there are for more people either curious or actively participating in these scenarios then we may realise.

Ariel, I know you’re interested in meeting and sharing conversations with likeminded people. I have only just started doing this myself with very selected people, and it’s wonderful to hear their thoughts and opinions, as it’s really surprising to find out how similar our views are.

Interesting to hear what Merlin said…..The first thing I did after getting home from the photo-shoot was to take all the pics off the camera, stick them on the PC, and wipe the memory stick clean! I was using the camera the next day, so didn’t want to accidentally look at the photos with my mates around. Just goes to show you how paranoid I was about it. This is a great shame, as I’m really proud of the photos taken during the shoot (there the best pics I’ve ever taken) and Ariel looked stunning and so beautiful.

The point being, that thanks to people like Hywel who have created websites and forums etc (R.E. being the best of these by miles and miles), its allowed people to be more open minded, indulge in their fantasise and probably more importantly, re-assured us were not alone in our thoughts and there are hundreds and thousands of others out there who feel the same way. It helps bring an end to the thought of “Am I weird and strange for enjoying these activates and is there anyone else who thinks the sameâ€

Wow, what a long, thoughtful and intelligent thread. I think I’ll post “my story” first then maybe pick up on a few things others have said in later posts.

I’ve been interested in bondage literally as long as I can remember. I think I probably realised at a very early age that there was a difference between what I imagined wanting to do to girls and what was actually acceptable behaviour for any human being to do. In fact my earliest fantasies were far darker than anything you’d see on Restrained Elegance, mostly involving baroque death-traps and damsels in distress.

I didn’t tell anyone about my interests. I don’t know why, exactly, although I was very much quieter and more private generally as a child than I am now. I started producing my own “Bondage Porn” very early, with pictures cut out from magazines and drawing in the deathtraps around them. As a teenager I collected elegant soft porn (Mayfair was a particular favourite, and I still like the slightly playful and camp style of the Mayfair covers of that era).

I was known in school as the soft porn king (there was another guy who was the hardcore porn king) so I obviously didn’t hide that interest much! I had calendars of naked women all over the walls of my room
🙂

I didn’t specifically tell anyone about the bondage interest although by this stage I was 100% sure that bondage and bare feet were my things. Not really sure why I didn’t discuss it- it never came up in the right situation, I guess. I had a collection of BDSM themed books (Gor etc) but not much in the way of photos. I’d read up as much as I could and knew that it wasn’t an uncommon fetish, and I think by stage had started to get comfortable with ways of making the initially very dark fantasies into things which one could actually do with a partner without causing harm or injury (or getting arrested for that matter LOL).

At University, I suddenly had a bit of money, control over my own spending, and wasn’t really accountable to anyone. The walls of my room were still adorned with the odd calendar with gorgeous girls, I’d started drawing on non-bondage fantasy/SciFi themes as well and a lot of the pictures on my walls featured very beautiful women (although not in a bondage context). When asked why I mostly drew women, the only thing I could really say is that I liked drawing women, I liked looking at women, I liked bringing the features to life in art as well. Men were just men- dull. Women were gorgeous! Much more interesting!

It was at University that I discovered some sources of bondage porn, so I supplemented my steady diet of elegant soft porn magazines with the odd custom photoset ordered from photographers who would shoot them to order (still have a very cute black and white set of photos with a lovely blonde lady barefoot getting whipped with a rope whip – very mild, very tame stuff, not particularly well lit and just shot in someone’s house, but still pretty hot stuff especially one shot where she was making strong eye contact with camera). I found a few S&M videos, which were very poor quality but much better than crappy horror films which had up until then been the only vaguely reliable way of getting hold of bondage on video. I found a few American bondage magazines, too.

By this stage I wasn’t hiding anything and most of my friends knew about the sort of things I was into- I made no secret of it, but nor did I blurt out “Hey! I’m really into tying girls up!” in general conversation.

Skip forward to postgrad and the discovery of one of Felix Dartmouth’s stunning pics of Dana on a Usenet newsgroup during a very boring night shift on my experiment in Hamburg.
I was instantly hooked. This was the VERY early days of the web, but being a particle physicist I was ideally placed to find bondage websites as soon as they sprung up, with Archives, Shortfuse and FM Concepts being the main sites I frequented as a member (with plenty of other sites I joined once or twice, too).

In terms of my own bondage art, I had got into 3D rendering with Bryce and Poser, but they were a real sod to do bondage pics with (they’ve come on a way since then!) I got into drawing portraits of friends for other reasons (an SCA arts & crafts project in fact) which in turn led to me doing bondage drawings which in turn led to me taking photos to draw from, dropping the art side completely and eventually ended up with me running my own website.

These days, I couldn’t possibly hide what I do- after all, it is a full-time job.

But at the time I launched the site, in theory I had a big decision to make. Should I, like most bondage producers and 90%+ of bondage models did at the time, do everything “on the quiet” with a pseudonym? Remember at the time I was an academic, a research fellow looking to secure a permanent lectureship. The idea of doing the website full-time was still years off.

For me the decision was so easy it didn’t really count as a decision at all. I’d already discovered that I was honest to the point of stupidity, and I decided I’d do everything under my own name and quite openly. In fact I promised myself I’d never publish anything under a pseudonym, ever. Life is too short. If I’m doing something I’m proud of, it can be under my own name. If I’m so ashamed of it I don’t want to put my name to it, I shouldn’t do it in the first place. So yes, Hywel Phillips is my real name, too.

The funny thing is that I can’t even remember having any really negative reactions from people about the site or the photos. My Mum doesn’t understand why the ropes have to be there, but things the photography is exquisite. My wife doesn’t understand why anyone would want to see more than one bondage photoset, ever, and is quietly bewildered (but hugely supportive). When the subject came up at work, everyone looked at the site and the photos and said nice things.

Sure, quite often I get “it is not my cup of tea”. That’s fine, wouldn’t expect it to be to everyone’s taste. But VERY few people have ever had a go at me for what I do. Most people seem to appreciate the care and thought that has gone into every photo, the way I’ve designed the website (one of my University friends commented just last week that he’d looked at the site for the first time and been very impressed by the style and class of it all). Feminist art historian friends at the previously-all-women’s college where I worked discussed the historical iconography of women as Madonna or Whore and the depiction of bondage in traditional art with me… and had some very constructive criticism (one that I’m still fighting my own tendency for is that a lot of the photos are very static. Not posed, just without obvious motion or flow in them). Not one said “you disgusting pervert, you’re exploiting women”. My lecturing career did not suffer one whit.

I don’t know for certain whether my students all looked at the site, but they probably did. I made no secret about it and I think did have one or two conversations about photoshoots with some students. Curiously the sort of things which interest people tend to be the nuts-and-bolts of the job- what time of day do you shoot to get good light, how come your beach shoots look gorgeous when mine always look rubbish (one word- reflectors!), how do you find the models, what camera do you use (get asked THAT one a lot), that sort of thing. So I never felt it was in any way inappropriate to discuss that sort of thing with students, male or female. (Remember these were adult University students, typically 20 or so- would surely have been different if I had been a school teacher!)

I’ve been equally open and up-front with everyone else. When I got the studio, I told the prospective landlords exactly what I did (and showed them the site). They thought it was much better fun than leasing the unit as a boring office. When I shot the film and wanted to shoot external shots, I emailed around all the other businesses on the estate and told them what I was doing and why. Several offered me help and we got to use stairs etc belonging to other businesses. When we met up to discuss various issues with the estate management company, several of them complimented me on the quality of the site and that it was quite fun to have something like that going on just a few doors away.

ALL our friends know. No-one has ever expressed any problems with it. When we go on diving holidays and people on the boat ask what I do, I tell them. Usually I say glamour and fetish photography when first asked rather than being very specific, but if they express any interest (which they usually do) I’ll tell them all about it and usually give ’em my card, too. Which has the website URL all over it of course. Frequently someone in the group goes off to a web cafe and has a look at the site during the week- and usually comes back and says nice things to me about it.

One or two models have been a bit off when I have contacted them about modelling for the site. Without wishing to name names, I would say that they have all turned out to be the sort of model who is modelling to find, fuck and extract money from a premiership footballer and for no other reason than that. Those are the ones who seem to be rather stuck-up. Plenty of models have declined to work with the site for personal reasons (most often not being happy with gags, or being on a site with more nudity than they are happy with- not that that would be an issue shooting because we’d work to their limits, but because they don’t want to be on ANY site with more nudity). Some have decided after appearing on the site that they would prefer the pics to come down, usually over worries about their careers. But only the few fuck-a-footballer models have been in any way insulting or sneering or pretended indignantion at my work- everyone else has said nice things, even if they decided not to be part of it themselves.

So all in all, it has been an amazingly positive experience for me. I guess I am very lucky that my social group is mostly open-minded university types, and that I live in a country where the people are very liberal (even if the laws haven’t quite caught up with them yet). I hear horror stories about models and photographers in small-town America which make my toes curl, glad I don’t live in a hypocritical stultifying atmosphere like that. (To be honest, I’d up sticks and move if I did).

Incidentally, I share CD’s fondness for petite (short!) women. Can’t say why, just do. Not that Ariel isn’t stunningly gorgeous I hasten to add… but there’s something about a petite, perfectly formed and barefoot girl that is so ultra-ultra-feminine that it really pushes my buttons 🙂

Personally, I would like to think that having a good, safe, classy, elegant, respectful outlet for bondage fantasies is a good way to ensure that people like me who started with very dark fantasies get to understand and explore them in a way which harms no-one. It is always a worry that some image I have taken may cause a fixation in someone who sees it and eventually trigger some horrible crime, or that somone will get obsessed with the site or (most likely) will fixate on and stalk a certain model. My personal opinion is that such a person would be likely to commit the crime eventually anyway, and would just have found another trigger a few days, months or years down the road. There are studies which seem to support this, but others which seem to contradict it. I know some of the models have had stalkers and do get creepy emails a lot. Incidentally that’s one reason why while I think the real name/total honesty works for me, I wouldn’t really advise every model to go for it. There are certainly very strong arguments against a model giving out her address to anyone!

Ultimately I can’t be responsible for everything others may see in my work, but I can try to deliberately maintain a level of style, grace, elegance and ultimately RESPECT and maintain that in the text and the attitude displayed towards the models on the site. That’s the best I can do. While I really enjoy hurting and humiliating someone within the context of a bondage scene, it is absolutely NOT acceptable to maintain that “sexist sadist scumbag” attitude for real. Probably even more important to have that respect for the person you are going to tie up and torture in a scene than it is to have it towards people in general, in fact.

So while I may have a storyline where the model is portraying a character who might be a whore or a slut, you will never see the person herself referred to in that way on Restrained Elegance. Other sites may sell the “Phwaor we got this slut here and did horrible things to her because she’s just a worthless bitch whore cunt and then we told her to fuck off and didn’t even pay her, aren’t we cool and hard bondage doms?” attitude. That attitude is kinda fine to have towards someone WITHIN the context of a scene, if that’s what appeals to the two of you. (Although it doesn’t do too much for me, to be honest- I prefer to be bit rather colder and more remote and aloof as the dom somehow, rather than dom-as-drooling-prevert).

So I shouldn’t really object to it on a website if that website is selling a fantasy and can be understood on that level. Personally, I prefer to make everything clear and maintain at least some separation between the fantasy and the reality on the site. So I really appreciate that Chanta has “her bitches” on Chanta’s Bitches and she treats them like sluts in the scene, but always “frames” the scene with interviews to make the girl into a person and emphasise that the whole thing is consensual. It makes it much easier for me to enjoy the darker and more intense stuff if I know that it is by construction a fantasy… and that any non-consensuality in the story is purely for the purposes of the storyline, too.

I try to make sure other people appreciate that there is a difference between model out of the scene and model playing the role in the scene, too. I don’t want to stop someone appreciating the site on a fantasy level by intrusively forcing them to consider the models as real people rather than slavegirl fantasy figures if they don’t want to- that would be intrusive. But I don’t want them treating models direspectfully either or thinking that it is OK to speak to them on the forum in the way Chanta or I might speak to them during a video when we are in character, for example. So I’ve enjoyed some of the behind-the-scenes videos of rigging suspensions where you can see us being us (the only thing really different from when the cameras aren’t rolling is that we have to remember to use stage names for models and that we mustn’t bitch too much in case anyone sues us!) Equally I can appreciate that someone might not WANT to have the fantasy punctured because it might lose a lot of its power for them so I try to drop hints like calling these things behind the scenes or tutorial features or whatever.

I really don’t like websites that have a constant, non-stop misogynist attitude (and I absolutely loathe people who have that attitude for real).

I think the development on the site that I am most pleased about in the last year or so is the way that the forum has developed into a community. Ariel’s decision to discuss some very personal things has really helped others do the same, I think. Thanks to all who have contributed to making it a safe, supportive and interesting place to talk about things like this!

I don’t think I ever worried too much about the “am I weird and sick for thinking like this”. I think I knew that I absolutely WAS like this, and nothing was going to change that, ever. But I also always knew that OF COURSE it would be wrong to really put a woman in a deathtrap (as well as being quite ludicruous, given most of the comicbook heroine stuff I used to imagine!) So I just started looking for safe ways of scratching the itch. I will admit that I used to be rather wary of mind-altering substances of any kind: I didn’t want to find that in some drunken haze I had actually done something from a fantasy. These days I know myself well enough to know that no, that would never ever happen… and everyone I’ve discussed it with has said that they are absolutely 100% sure that I never would, either. But when I was younger, I guess I didn’t. These days I don’t drink at all but that’s because I get a three-day filthy hangover from half a glass of wine.

P.S. CD… Sadly “thousands” over-estimates the membership. At the time of writing we are hovering at around 940-950 or so and are all crossing our fingers that we’ll finally hit 1000 members “for real” soon. We thought we had done so in December, but it turned out to be a false dawn because some 90 day memberships were not expiring correctly. DAMN.

Cheers, Hywel.

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This post got me thinking once again about how society thinks and how I got in to the whole thing,

I can´t say that I have felt it since I was little, my first contact with bondage were when I found some pictures at my boyfriends when I was around 14 I think, I became curios but was afraid of continuing exploring it even though he wanted to, because what if anyone found out, they would think all kinds of stuff about me….. I was clearly not normal I thought this was a bad thing….. 🙂

Well started not to think about what other thought, got in to it more and more, tried more things and saw what I like. Now I wouldn´t like to live without it :newangel

I would like to say that I´m completly open with it but I can´t be….I´m kind of semi open. My parents and family don´t know they wouldn´t understand. I´m open with most of my friends, have got positiv response there, they think there´s nothing wrong… shown them some pictures of me and they think they are beautiful. Now I tell new people that I meet from the start.

I really hope that society become even more accepting about BDSM, I would like to be able to say what I like without maybe having to defend it or being thought of like some strange person. I´m proud of the pictures that I have taken and of what I´m doing. I´m finding new things all the time I would like to try.

:love

Pling ( nickname for Ingela)

Hi all,

Well, this is kind of a big thing for me, to be even contemplating posting anything here. I’ve been an intermittent member of RE since getting hooked up online about three years ago, but have only been a silent observer of the forum till now. Mostly, because I have wrestled for the best part of 35 years with my attraction to the images of bound damsels, feeling that it was in some way, unhealthy, abnormal or just plain wrong. I have marvelled at the self-confidence and candour of all of you who have been able to post your feelings and reactions, but have just never felt able to respond myself.

That is until reading CD/James’s initial post on this thread. Then the fascinating replies of the rest of you…and agreeing, or at least understanding, with something from almost every post, I felt I could remain a silent observer no longer! So, I’ve done it..I’m posting!! I’m not very good at this, but I guess I just wanted to say something as someone who ISN’T good at this.

I must say that I love Kate’s definition of the site as a kind of light bondage FHM, as this neatly ties in with the dilemma CD touched upon: the rather dodgy rep that bondage has out there; but in reality, the wonderful work that Hywel does – no matter that the initial fantasies may have come from darker places – IS rather FHM-y..albeit with more class! It is interesting the broad consensus across the lot of you as to what you find so appealing about images of tied women, though I envy you all that you seem able to share your passion with others, even immediate family. That is a bridge too far, and I suspect will always remain so. As for actively sharing my passion with another person..that is even more unlikely. I should take heart from what many of you say, but I fear that I have lived with the stigma too long. It’s a long-term fantasy that will simply remain one. Still, I can see how the forum offers a valuable means of contextualising things, and that it is clear that there are a number of us out there, who broadly share the same passion. I thought it was intriguing the notion that it might even be more mainstream in ten years or so. The mainstream representation of bondage in film and TV is still rather limp, it must be said, and I don’t see that changing. Until it does…

I really envy Hywel, Merlin and Steve that they have actually been able to work with wonderful people like Ariel who are easy with their passion for bondage. I agree with Hywel that Ariel’s contributions on the site in general, and the forum in specific, have been incredibly important. She has been kind enough to reply to a few emails I’ve sent over recent months, and that was an immensely significant step for me…just to be able to ask a few things of another person, who so openly embraces her love of being restrained. Obviously, I’ve never been able to create my own photographic images, but ever since I was about 8, I have written stories that have explored them in my head. I stopped writing until very recently, having plucked up the courage to buy some erotic SM novels from Amazon. One or two were OK, but the majority were a wee bit too sordid for me, with a bit too much rather messy sex in. I know that might seem weird, but I kind of prefer the peril side of the imagery, the struggling and moaning and wriggling, rather than too much rough sex and pain. Never been one for the pain side of things, though was surprised by how much aspects of Ariel’s videos have drawn me in. I guess it is simply that she so obviously enjoys the playing that I can cope. The novel representations are much more about pain for its own sake and I can’t abide that. So, I have been trying to write a story which treads a careful line. In fact, I was plotting a tale involving a beautiful woman – not unlike Ariel as it happens, LOL! – just before Hywel and Ariel posted the first LOng Term bondage stuff. I wasn’t a member at the time, and thought that a strange coincidence. However, it rather stole my creative thunder – thanks, you two!! – and have only recently been able to get back to it properly, but partly also due to university commitments (I lecture but unilke Hywel, there is NO way I can be as open…always been too shy and that’s my problem!).

All these stories over the years have been my outlet, but they have been mined solely from imagination. I have NO idea how a woman feels to be tied up, why it is so sexy or a thrill or whatever. Ariel’s openness on the forum has helped massively, but I do lack that personal experience. As a result, I doubt these stories are ever likely to get off my laptop, as they are probably totally divorced from the reality, from what it actually feels like, but they will doubtless remain a key expression for me.

I’m not quite sure what this post has contributed to the debate CD started, but I felt strangely compelled to say something. I think, simply, that there might actually be other people here, who read these posts and envy the ability of the minority to be so open. They might, like me, never have actually tied anyone up, but still dream about doing so, and maybe it might encourage them to post too. It has been quite liberating to do this..oddly enough.

On a personal note, though, I wanted just to say thank you to all of you who have posted a response to CD. While I still feel uncomfy in my own skin about my passion, it DOES nevertheless help to learn a bit more about how others feel, how they have coped with their feelings and how they have been able, with differing levels of ease, to be open i ntheir lives. There is hope…!

Jo

PS It’s my pseudonym..and I’ll hide behind it for now. C’mon, I’ve go to learn to crawl first..!

Hi Hywel,

Thanks, I would love to come back later in the year :smooch 🙂

@hywel wrote:

It’s also a driving force for my fiction writing. The Gor novels are interesting, but too much on the misogynic and DSM end of BDSM for me to really enjoy. And a lot of the more recent fiction on the subject is like that too: Leaning heavily (from my biased point of view) to the DSM end of BDSM, with not enough actual bondage. Fiction featuring chained, barefoot, and pampered slavegirls is amost nonexistant. So I set about writing some.

Ooooh… have you had anything published? Any links we can look at?

Well, the first novel is collecting rejection-slips from various major publishers, and the second one (sequel) is stuck half-way through.

I do have a number of short stories as well, some on my website http://geocities.com/lurker60031/, ten stories on the Damsel Theater token site http://www.damseltheater.com/galleries.php?id=Sablesword, and if you don’t mind tickling with your bondage, a bunch of stories on the TickleTheater forum http://www.tickletheater.com/showthread.php?t=34672

(A couple of the tickling stories are interrogation stories that I’m especially pleased with 🙂 because they’re *not* your usual “interrogation by tickling” stories. Instead they give a hearty “neener neener” to the standard “Talk woman! Or I will tickle you some more!” – “No! Please! Anything but that!”)

Oh, I should also add that all my stories are science fiction & fantasy because that’s what I *do* :alien So if you’re alergic to that stuff, you have been warned.

Haven’t got my own thoughts in order about the questions raised in this thread yet, however for those who didn’t hear Woman’s Hour this morning, the “listen to this item” at the URL below might be of interest.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/womanshour/01/2007_07_mon.shtml

Frank

Lurker, I’ve copied your fiction excerpt to a new thread for comments- this one is heavy enough already 🙂

Hywel.

Ps; Kate – you are beautiful and we all think you are great. I was going to write about what a bastard your former hubby sounded, how you clearly deserve a far nicer bloke, and how great it is that you are back on RE but I thought I would leave it short and sweet.

Really touched, CJimD. Thank you. Made me cry a tiny bit! :smooch

As for your situation with your partner, I do think that honesty is the best policy, but obviously only you know the situation and, I suppose, the longer you leave it the harder it gets. Good luck whatever you choose to do.

Also, interesting about your sister. I have an older brother (only 11 mths older) and I kept my modelling a secret from him, however my blob gob mother recently told him that I was ‘doing some work for a bondage photographer I modelled for while I was at uni’ and he hasn’t reacted in a negative way at all. In fact, he is very proud of my photography in general and was keen to see some more of my work. He hasn’t asked to see any of my modelling photos though – surprise, surprise…

Kate x

And HELLO JO! So glad you made it onto the forum, I’ve been hoping you would 🙂 I’ll look forward to reading your posts; so pleased that you worked up the courage :;):

Hi Jo,

Just wanted to add my welcome to you as well, sorry I haven’t before now. It took me a long time of lurking too before I posted on here. I am so glad I did now and you will be too… promise!

It is interesting what you say about watching films with a partner. Me and my partner recently watched ‘The Secretary’ and, although he was really fine about my submissive fantasies / requests before, now he really seems to ‘get’ why I sometimes need to be like that. He isn’t into bondage really (although he has a thing about secretaries…) but he thought the scene where Maggie Gyllenhaal has that metal pole across her shoulders (don’t know what it is called) was one of the most erotic things he had ever seen!

Kate x